Thank you for sharing this with us. It’s perfect timing too, I needed this story. A reminder that my weird, full, unabashed self has the confidence, not the one I used to try to be. Less weird, so as not to be too weird, trying not to take up space. Of course I didn’t fit, and didn't want to be there.
Great bit and absolute-em-whaaá! I remember exactly when I realized people took note when I just didn't give a fuck. Ironically (or no?) it was when I quit a job. When it's hard to sustain that DGAF euphoria I remind myself Spiderman gives-no-fucks.
This was really good. 12 interviews without an offer???? That’s an absolute horror, my heart literally dropped in my chest oh my goodness.
Also low key I think I might have RSD dysphoria after reading this… I have also adopted the mindset when I approach something that stresses me out (like interviews for example) that I’ve already failed at it so like what’s the point in actually caring just do it anyways
You do strike me as possibly the type haha. It was such an extreme situation as well, since I had been in such high demand from everyone, everywhere, since the beginning of my career. I contract-hopped for better terms because I could, because everyone wanted me. Then to have that happen was just unreal, and a bit of a wake-up call. It also taught me more about human psychology than anything ever could.
That mindset of pre-determined failure is the thing that saved me so many times. Not just for the confidence bit but also avoiding feeling any disappointment when it doesn't go the way I want it to.
Thank you for sharing this with us. It’s perfect timing too, I needed this story. A reminder that my weird, full, unabashed self has the confidence, not the one I used to try to be. Less weird, so as not to be too weird, trying not to take up space. Of course I didn’t fit, and didn't want to be there.
Sincerely, thank you.
<3 confidence is like its own recipe for success.
Great bit and absolute-em-whaaá! I remember exactly when I realized people took note when I just didn't give a fuck. Ironically (or no?) it was when I quit a job. When it's hard to sustain that DGAF euphoria I remind myself Spiderman gives-no-fucks.
Spiderman gives one or two fucks only and they are very rare, very precious fucks indeed! Hahaha
Thank you for this Nicholas! I love this life hack! ❣️
Thank you <3 it's saved me so many times
My man this is the kind of stuff we need more of on LinkedIn. Real, honest, with soul. Thank you for sharing 🙏
This was really good. 12 interviews without an offer???? That’s an absolute horror, my heart literally dropped in my chest oh my goodness.
Also low key I think I might have RSD dysphoria after reading this… I have also adopted the mindset when I approach something that stresses me out (like interviews for example) that I’ve already failed at it so like what’s the point in actually caring just do it anyways
You do strike me as possibly the type haha. It was such an extreme situation as well, since I had been in such high demand from everyone, everywhere, since the beginning of my career. I contract-hopped for better terms because I could, because everyone wanted me. Then to have that happen was just unreal, and a bit of a wake-up call. It also taught me more about human psychology than anything ever could.
That mindset of pre-determined failure is the thing that saved me so many times. Not just for the confidence bit but also avoiding feeling any disappointment when it doesn't go the way I want it to.
Great piece!
Thank you sir!